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Family Wellness Program

Family members and friends are invited to attend video-based talks covering five major topics in family recovery.  The talk consists of a 60-minute presentation, and a 30-minute question and answer session.  Family Wellness Weekly is not a replacement for the work that your loved one’s program is currently doing.  It is intended to be an additional support made available to you by your program so that you have an opportunity to heal, and to discover options for families and friends of loved ones who are doing the best they can to support recovery.

Time and logistics  

Family Wellness Weekly is live on Wednesdays at 12 noon (MST/Az). The video platform is Microsoft Teams.  A recording of the live session is available for the week following via a YouTube link below.   
 

How to register to attend the live session:

The clinical team at your Acadia community begins by identifying you as a person who is a family member or friend of a current or past patient in treatment at their facility.  When you have been identified as having a loved one who is either in treatment, or recently discharged from treatment.  The clinical staff at your facility will help you to register and will answer your questions about the Family Wellness Weekly program.   

Contact us for more information: 520-388-9180

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Family Wellness FAQs

Troubleshooting Highlights

What the heck is going on here? 

Ambiguity.  Families with mental health or addiction issues experience a high degree of ambiguity.  There is more than one interpretation or meaning in so many of the interactions that family members experience ambiguous loss: it’s clear that you are losing something, but do not know what that is.  Often it is difficult to know what to do with the uncertainty, and a sense of fear or dread can permeate the transactions.  Recognizing and tolerating ambiguity is the first step in effectively identifying and solving any issue.  

  

What do I do when I don’t know what the problem is? 

Wisdom from horse trainers is that you have to go slower to get there quicker.  This is a time for allowing yourself to be quiet and think about what is most troubling to you.  As Al-Anon recommends, when you do not know what to do, you don’t have to do anything.  First, take your time to get into your wise mind.  Ask yourself your questions and listen non-judgmentally to your own response.  If you do not have a response allow yourself to be aware of that, nonjudgmentally.  Temporarily let go of the question and come back to asking it again later with a fresh look.  The challenge with ambiguity is that there is more than one possible question, and more than one meaning.  There is confusion.   

What if I know the choices and I don’t know what to pick? 

If you know the choices and you don’t know what to select, you may be experiencing ambivalence.  Ambivalence is different from Ambiguity.  With ambivalence there is more than one possible solution to the problem as it is clearly defined.  According to Mihaela Berciu “When ambivalence is welcomed, normalised, and embraced, a deeper self-understanding is achieved and, as a result, we make better decisions about complex life issues, without feeling overwhelmed.”  For example, “I could wash my hands of this problem, or I can find a way to respect that we see the way going forward differently.”   

What could be the reasons that my solutions are not working? 

If your loved one attempts to change it may be change in a way that renders them ineffective in their own lives or relationships.  Marsha Linehan recommends considering asking six questions when what you and/or your loved one is doing is not working.  1) Do you have the skills that you need? 2) Do you know what you want in the interactions?  3) Are short term goals getting in the way of long-term goals? 4) Are emotions getting in the way?  5) Are assumptions getting in the way? 6) Is the environment more powerful than your skills? 

When the solution to the problem becomes the problem. 

Often, we are doing what we think will provide the most help in resolving an issue, and the solution becomes part of the problem.  For example, if we decide to help our loved one wake up to their alarm by coming in to make sure they are awake, we may actually teach our loved one to sleep through their alarm and only get up when we wake them up.  Consider whether your solution is providing too much of something that used to work:  Too much closeness, too much distance, too many rules, too much freedom. 

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